Do you know your attachment style…at work?

We often talk about attachment styles in dating—but what about your job? If you’ve ever felt like your self-worth depends on a promotion, your boss’s opinion, or the way your job title makes you look… you’re not alone. I’ve been there. And in my latest YouTube video, I share the raw truth: how getting fired from my dream job left me homeless, confused, and questioning my whole life during 2024.

But here’s what I learned—your job is not your worth. And just like with relationships, it’s possible to break free from unhealthy patterns.

🎥 Watch the full video here for the behind-the-scenes story and the mindset shift that changed everything.

So, enough about me. Let’s talk about you (I’m not changing the subject, you’re changing the subject).

The 4 Career Attachment Styles: Which One Are You?

1. Secure Attachment: The Career Confident Queen
You're emotionally balanced, know when to log off, and your job doesn’t define your entire personality. You take risks with grace and pivot when needed—without spiraling.

💡 Tip: If this is you, protect this energy. Schedule regular “career check-ins” with yourself to stay aligned with your goals—not someone else’s.

2. Anxious Attachment: The Approval Addict
If your mood rides the wave of your manager’s moods, you stay late to “prove” you’re worth your salary, or you stress over what you do like it defines you—hi, I see you. I used to overwork, overidentify and still feel under-fulfilled because no job can fill your cup completely.

💡 Tip: Start tracking your wins outside of work weekly. Shift your validation source from external (praise) to internal (growth milestones). Try journaling small moments of confidence to build evidence of your value outside of how others see you and work on building an internal sense of purpose and joy.

3. Avoidant Attachment: The “IDGAF” Professional
You’re the queen of boundaries—maybe too good. You don’t open up at work, avoid team bonding, and may jump from job to job to keep things surface-level. Think - catching flights not feelings (sound familiar?).

💡 Tip: Connection is key for growth. Challenge yourself to ask for feedback or to make friends at work once a month—it builds emotional safety while opening new doors!

4. Disorganized Attachment: The Chaotic Hustler
You're either obsessed with your job or ghosting your to-do list. One moment, you're craving recognition, the next you’re questioning why you even care. It’s exhausting, and totally real.

💡 Tip: Anchor yourself with consistent routines—especially ones that make you feel empowered (language practice, workouts, journaling). Predictability builds confidence, and science shows that hanging out with securely attached people can actually make you more secure too. Find some people to add to your circle at work with habits that inspire you to finally make that shift!

My Wake-Up Call: Getting Fired Was the Best Thing That Ever Happened to Me

I never expected to go from flying high with Emirates to sleeping on a friend’s futon. It broke me (as we all saw in my viral video below)—but it also forced me to rebuild from scratch. What rose from the ashes was a business, a brand, and a self-trust I never had before.

The thing is, losing your job doesn’t have to mean losing yourself.

🎥 Remember that time I cried on the internet because we learned this the hard way? Yeah …me too.

The Secret Weapon That Helped Me Rewire My Brain: Language Learning

Here’s something unexpected: learning languages has helped me heal my attachment style. It gives me confidence, agency, and a secure foundation, knowing I can rely on being a polyglot and self-teaching myself new skills to always find more work.

That’s why I love Lingopie. It’s like Netflix, but smarter—designed for real-world language learning through shows and subtitles. As I binge French and Italian shows, I’m not just learning vocabulary—I’m rewiring my mindset to be playful, curious, and resilient.

💡 Pro Tip: Watch one Lingopie episode after a tough workday. It resets your nervous system, builds a new skill, and reminds you your life is bigger than your job. Oh, and you’re literally just watching tv and getting smarter. Win-win!

👉 Try my Lingopie affiliate link here: Try Lingopie
Use it to build confidence, escape boredom, add skills to your CV and connect with new parts of yourself!

Ready to Break the Cycle?

If you feel stuck, burnt out, or like your job is the gatekeeper to your self-worth—you’re not broken. You’re just attached. And attachment styles can be changed. I really recommend the book “Attached” linked here as it helped me learn so much about relationships. Definitely in the top five books I’ve read this year. Once you’ve read it, you’ll really have a better understanding of how you relate to others. It even improved my relationship to myself!

🎥 Watch the full story in my new video if you haven’t already → “I Was Homeless After Emirates Fired Me”

Now that you know - ask yourself: What would a securely attached version of me do today?

Your dream life isn’t waiting in your next job title. It’s waiting in your next brave step!

Own your story and write the next chapter in pen. Life is too short.

xo

Cat